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A new way to FIGHT RAPE

Last year the White House ran an “Apps Against Abuse” Challenge to Help Address Sexual Assault and Dating Violence. The apps “Circle of 6” and “On Watch” were the two winning apps out of 30 submitted applications. Both apps are set to be released early this year, and we’re hoping we’ll see them in the next month or two!

What On Watch 6 says about their App:

“Protect yourself, Provide support, Promote respect

OnWatch is a mobile app designed to help young adults–those most at risk for sexual violence and dating abuse–protect themselves and provide support to their peers, by instantly and discreetly connecting them to the people they trust when they need it most. In just two taps, a user can transmit critical information–by phone, email, text, and social media–to their own support network, emergency services and Campus Police.

With five alert modes, seven alarm sounds and a flashlight, OnWatch is a highly customizable app that offers a safety net for the “what ifs” of life. The app also provides links (under the Resources button) to sexual assault, dating violence and domestic abuse hotlines. A corresponding website helps promote the importance of respectful and healthy relationships by raising awareness about the danger signs of dating abuse and providing links to educational materials, safety plans, bystander information and additional resources.

Here, brief descriptions of the app’s features and guidance on when and how to use OnWatch:

Watch My Back:When you’re going to a party, going on a date or going for a runopen OnWatch and select Watch My Back. Fill in the contact info for your A3s—the anywhere, anytime, any reason friends who make up your own team of first-responders—then write a message (partying at Alpha-Beta-Delta, I may be in trouble. Call me, then call campus security), set a timer—say, four hours for a night out—and off you go. If all goes as planned, you can easily cancel the timer, and no one has to know where you were, what you were doing or that you might have felt vulnerable.But, if the countdown runs out without being canceled, your customized message and location, with a link to a map, will be sent to your designated contacts notifying them that you may need help.

Panic: This is an alert mode designed for situations when may need immediate help. Those times when you feel vulnerable, for example, when you’re walking across an empty campus, entering a deserted parking garage, or studying late at night in the library, open OnWatch and tap the Panic icon to access a screen with a big panic button. If you feel threatened, double tap the Panic button. Your phone automatically calls 911 and sends text and email messages with your GPS info to notify preselected contacts that you may be in danger.

I’m Here: Check in with friends, make rendezvous plans or let others know you’ve safely arrived at your destination, with just a couple of taps of the phone. Before you leave your dorm, write a message and select contacts (for one-time use or to use over and over again). Once you’ve arrived at your appointed location, with just a couple of taps of your phone, all your preselected contacts will receive emails and text messages with your GPS location. Peace of mind and convenience at your fingertips.

Call 911 Only: We were being literal when we named this feature. It requires no setup and is designed for those times when you want to immediately summon emergency services without notifying your contacts.

Campus Police: Once you enter your Campus Police number into your phone, this alert requires no set up and, similar to Call 911 Only, it’s designed for those times when you want to immediately summon help without notifying your contacts. Here’s how it works: From the home screen, tap Campus Police and the large shield will appear on your screen. Keep it open whenever you feel vulnerable. If you sense danger, tap twice to call Campus Police.

My Watches: One Size Never Fits All. Each alert mode can be customized by the combination of contacts you select, the tools you activate and the messages you create. Together, these variables create a Watch. You can create an unlimited number of Watches—and they can be set up for one-time or repeated use.

 My People:  These are the folks you’d turn to in an emergency: Your best friend, roommate, RA and others who are part of your circle of support. You look out for one another with Watch My Back, respond to each other’s Panic calls and you keep in touch with I’m Here. (A suggestion: Work out a system so there’s a rotating “responsible responder,” a designated contact for the day–someone charged with remaining clear headed and available to answer alerts.)

Connect: OnWatch allows you to automatically share activated alert messages (or not) with Facebook friends and/or Twitter followers. Before posting alerts to any social media site, check your privacy settings. Or, consider setting up a social media page that can only be accessed by your trusted friends or relatives, and use that account to post alert messages.”

What Circle of 6 says about their App:

“Circle of 6 is an iPhone app for college-aged students and their friends to stay close, stay safe, and prevent violence before it happens.

We believe that staying connected to a small group of people is critical to keeping you and your friends informed and safe. Circle of 6 is a mobile app that makes it quick and easy to reach your circle and let them know where you are, and what you need. It’s a fast, easy-to-use and secure way to look out for each other.

The design is simple. It takes two touches to get help, so no fumbling or digging around for the right number. We use icons to represent actions, so that no one can tell what you’re up to if they see your phone. The design ensures safety, speed and privacy. GPS is integrated (using Google maps), and is only activated by you, and sent to your own Circle of 6.

Publicly we ask that everyone take the pledge to stop violence before it happens. This via a Facebook page to engage large numbers of young adults 18-24 in advocating for safer campuses and relationships without violence. Privately, we ask that you look out for each other by downloading the Circle of 6 app and supporting your friends.

The app is a proto-prototype, currently working on iPhones. In the next iteration, we will expand programming to work on multiple devices and operating systems (Droids, Blackberries, etc), and will conduct usability testing.

The gallery of images is a storyboard of how the app works. Each user downloads the app and adds 5 contacts from their address book, creating a Circle of 6 supporters. There are 3 situations where SMS notifications are sent to your circle of 6, and one emergency where the Love is Respect and RAINN  hotlines can be called automatically.

1. Car icon: Come and get me. SMS message reads, “Come and get me. I need help getting home safely. My GPS coordinates are…”

2. Phone icon: Call me. SMS message reads, “Call and pretend you need me. I need an interruption.”

3. Chat icon: I need some advice. SMS message reads, “I’m looking for information, just letting you know.” [This will link the user with risk-assessment tools and information about healthy vs. abusive relationships developed by content partners, including ISIS, The Line Campaign, RAINN, California Coalition against Sexual Assault]“

Let's Talk. Diary of the Fashionista [06/07/2010]

Nothing completes a look like a beautiful smile. Some of the worst fashion mistakes have gone unnoticed because an amazing smile stole the show. I have always envied people with smiles that lit up a room. One of my biggest insecurities has always hid behind my lips. My teeth have been something I have always concealed due to a bad incident with a dentist years ago. For the most part, I avoided anything more than a cleaning, and figured I would just live with my less than perfect teeth. To be honest, I don’t think an open mouthed picture of me exists out there.

I figured I can get through life with closed mouthed smiles, and if need be, I know some amazing photographers that are Photoshop experts. But recently, my oldest son started asking me why I don’t smile in pictures. When I tried to get away with a grin, he sweetly said, “No Mommy smile big!” This broke my heart and was the final push I needed to start looking into creating a smile I wasn’t ashamed of.
I decided to start looking for the best of the best. I needed someone that would address my anxiety, fix the mistake made by a previous dentist, and help me correct my “hidden tooth.” My search led me to Dr. Sawyer and his practice in Los Gatos.

Dr. Sawyer has to be one of the kindest dentists I have met. While his kindness was refreshing, it didn’t put my mind at ease. However, once I started to talk to him about my fears, anxiety, and insecurities, he informed me on what went wrong before and what my options were. With each little bit of information, I felt my anxieties peel away, and I became hopeful that a perfect smile was not as out of reach as I thought. In my mind, I saw myself smiling in pictures with my kids and being proud of my smile. I believed that I would finally have the smile I dreamed about!

This last week, I went in and we set up a game plan that will take about 8 months to complete. I am excited and nervous at the same time. As weird as it sounds, I look forward to each visit. This last visit I learned that I could get through a 1 ½ hour visit at the dentist without panic, in the hands of people I trusted. I also learned I have things in my gums that if left untreated, could really hurt me in the future. I never had a dentist care so much about me as a whole. I was much more than just a mouth full of teeth.

We talked about sleep apnea—a sleeping disorder that can kill. The wear on my teeth also showed that I’d be left with stubs if I didn’t stop grinding them. We discussed the options I had to treat the disorder, before it developed to something more serious. I also learned that I am still scared of numbing lotions, creams, and shots (remember–I got through my last c-section with Motrin). I was relieved to find out that everyone was there to help me make the decision that made me feel most comfortable–physically and mentally.

Thankfully Dr. Sawyer is O.K. with me asking a million questions.  I can’t wait for my next appointment and I especially look forward to sharing my journey with you. I am sure the next time I see any of you at an event you’ll be looking at my teeth, and I’m O.K. with that now. I have a plan. Well, we have a plan. My wonderful team of dentists and I do. I know the pictures are going to be FANTASTIC when we’re all done! I for one am waiting for one picture in particular–with my son, smiling as big as I do in my dreams!

Let's Talk – Diary of the Fashionista [05/26/2010]

What is true style? Is it something you’re born with or something you develop along the way? Is it the knowledge of brands, designers, or an eye for what makes you look effortless? Everyday more and more people are posting blogs with what they wear, how they style it, and why they should be looked up to when it comes to fashion and trends with hopes of developing a following. But I think a lot more goes into having style than meets the eye.

There are some style/fashion blogs that I love, follow, and have followed for years. I will never be them, and the closest I can come to that would be to “imitate” what they’re naturally graceful at. In the world of fashion the last thing we need is another imitation. I think it’s vital to stay true to ones roots, even at the risk of being a mess. True beauty comes from being comfortable in one’s skin, and knowing that even though you may not know all there is to know, there is beauty in the honesty that comes in speaking it.

For most of my life I tried to fit in, and I so much wanted to be the “popular” girl in high school. Throughout my teenage years my self esteem was at an all time low. But as I grew up I found my self more and more through each joy and obstacle that came into my life. Through illness, weight gain/loss, wealth, and lack I become grounded. My faith, family, and friends help me be the best I can be and motivate me to overcome mountains in my life. And as much as I wish I was perfect, I’m not. So when I fail, in fashion or in life, I pick myself back up again and move on to the next chapter.

I’ve found what makes me happy in life, and one of them is this blog. I hope I can share things with you that will make you feel your best, excite you to try something new, and maybe help others who might be struggling with something. Even though not all of it will be in every budget, maybe it can serve as inspiration. And while some might not be up to par with what you’re accustomed to, maybe you can find joy in the joy it brings someone else.

My hope is that each reader, designer, sponsor, photographer, and contributor will have a sense of ownership here. We have but one life to live, let’s make each second count, and feel beautiful with each step that we take!

xo,

The Fashionista

These pictures to me represent beauty in so many ways. I encourage you to go to the blog and see the story behind the smile of the old lady in black. Photo’s taken by www.studiomoradi.com


Let's Talk – Diary of the Fashionista [05/21/2010]

I’ve had the pleasure of meeting a few of our readers these past few months, and have received the most amazing emails and messages as well. To say the least, I am blessed to have each of you as a reader. Besides my love for fashion and shopping there is a whole another side to me and I want to share it with you.

My family has my heart, before Dior, Gucci, Prada, and even Louboutin. They are my biggest fans and my motivation in all that I do. I’m sure you’ll hear more about them in upcoming entries and posts, but the truth is that without them in my life,  I wouldn’t be able to do what I do, and meet all you amazing people.

I haven’t always been a fashionista, and as I celebrate my 30th birthday  I can promise you I spent the majority of that time as a walking, living, “fashion don’t.”

I’ll have to dig up some pics so everyone can get a good laugh.

I wasn’t a born fashionista, I was actually a born tom boy who refused to wear a skirt, or grow my hair out. I guess I was the original Shiloh Jolie Pitt ;) Somehow along the line I got into retail and after being sent home on my first day  of work for being a hot mess (to put it lightly), I slowly (very slowly) evolved day by day. I fell in love with fashion, styling, shopping, and everything that goes with it. A few years back I started a personal shopping business and stopped after I had my first baby. I loved helping everyone feel their best and I’m so glad to be able to reach out to a much larger group of people now.

I’m looking forward to knowing you more, seeing you at events, and also having you know me! We have such an amazing community here in the Bay Area and I’m so excited to talk fashion, food, beauty and health with you all!

I’d like to hear from you as well, so check out our “Introductions” page!

xoxo,

The Fashionista